Unequal marriages should not be called as immoral characteristic of our age.
Already before a century, and before two hundred years, as well as three hundred years ago girls got married with gray men, but eager young men were crazy because of women who were in full bloom of their beauty. And not always the main motive of those marriages was a wealth or personal benefit.
Pushkin, who is well- known in the whole world, once wrote: for love, all ages are equal. He himself was a great admirer of women, and not only once he was in love with ladies, who might be in the age at least of his older sisters. However, ladies from high circles have always liked younger men. History is full with many examples of happy marriages where the age difference between lovers was very significant. Nevertheless, it is true that not always such relationships were permanent.
Life does not stand still. Changes take place not only in everyday life, which is becoming increasingly technical. Our consciousness also experiences changes, despite the existing stereotypes and conservative views in connection with the morality of society. Now parents do not allow older and middle- aged men to marry their pure and innocent girls, besides the number of such a girl is decreasing, because the today’s lifestyle does not accept the infantilism and naivety. The days when women were perceived solely as muses or housewives are gone, now any woman can plant a tree, build a house and raise a son. Moreover, modern medicine and cosmetology make miracles that are able to turn any monster into a real princess or prince.
And yet, should we be afraid of the unequal marriages? Without a doubt, not everything is as romantic as we would like, there tend to be cases when new predators often caught in their own nets elderly lovers in order to secure a prosperous life for them, but some ladies are ready support much younger lovers if we talk about age. Of course, there is also loved. These feelings are able to overcome any obstacles and stereotypes, and those, who do not fear of gossip and stay on this dangerous road, deserve to have their lucky ticket to the Kingdom of joy and delight. Let’s better talk about the pros and cons of this union.
Why do young girls fall in love with men who are in the age of their fathers? Are you sure they all are hungry for a wealthy life, or they are unsure about their personality, because of which they are not able to stand on their own feet and find their place in the society? Alternatively, evil tongues are right, that there is an appropriate sign for such couples, and it denies any existence of romantic feelings?
Psychologists believe that often the causes of unequal marriages are not only complexes of inferiority or greed.
Simply, any woman wants her husband to support her in everything, as well as an increase the confidence for tomorrow. In addition, a man who is 15-20 years older than his wife is unlikely to seek for another lover. Why to hide unnecessarily – often elderly men are politer and romantic, then our peers. We must not forget about our dreams: we all want to be admired and pampered. We all want to hear compliments. We all want to be taken care of and feel the kindness, and we want to be defended and protected from all the storms and troubles. As well, these marriages have a very big plus – this woman in the eyes of her husband will always be young, beautiful and charming beauty, as well as after many years the great year gap will vanish.
Moreover, we should not ignore the fact that not always spouse relationships are formed on eager passion – the happiness formula of family has been discovered a long time ago – a happy family life is guaranteed by friendly and trusting relationships, but not the emotional tides and fear of losing the second half in an unequal battle with the rivals. Not all people want desperately to fall in love, someone is looking for a quiet family life, where one can hide from all the disasters and storms of life.
In addition, the same men who managed to enchant a young girl lengthen their lives, because they are forced to keep up with you for as long as possible to maintain the athletic shape and youth. However, too proud themselves and their charm – they are the best medicine for any age crisis. Such winner does not fear from anything.
A lot, it has been essential is the union between mature women and young men, although part of the problems that lovers face are the same. The opinion of society in this case will be based on the existing stereotypes. There is a presumption that similar relationships arise because the young man in a way wish to solve their financial problems, or because he wants to enjoy the pleasures of love entirely with an experienced woman.
The nature is arranged like this that for women, it is more difficult to maintain youth and beauty, then for men, women are aging more rapidly, and not everyone will have enough money for expensive plastic surgeries. In addition, we will not hide from the eternal problem: we are the daughters of Eve, regardless of life experience and wisdom of our mistakes; we continue to love with ears. Because we want to believe in fairy tales so badly! Not for nothing, they say – in every woman, despite her years, there will always be living a small enthusiastic princess who believes in the happy end, and a great love.
That is true that everything should have limits, and you should not violate the limits of reason, because a too big age difference would lead to irreversible consequences.
First of all – these different views and different vision of the world. Different generations often speak in different languages, because for older people the perception of younger people seems totally unacceptable. There are various codes of culture that have developed in a particular era. Time leaves everlasting marks on the personality. How might feel the man who remembers his mad youth with delight, now realizes that his chosen one in those days was not yet born, but her parents were not familiar? Alternatively, what kind of discomfort he feels in the company of his wife’s new and fascinating girlfriends, when he is being presented to them but in the same time they are in the age of his daughters. And only love and good manners will help to overcome these problems. If the two halves have found each other, then it will be unable to distinguish these people nor by the language of neither people nor the large-year gap.
However, I should say a few words about illusions. Therefore, before indulging in feelings, and without reservations to believe in everything what your soul wants, you should realistically evaluate your options and check the loyalty of your chosen one. Unfortunately, the gray Romeos are vulnerable and fragile in front of the youthful beauty, so they have a tendency to self-deception. They have to be realistic and clear: if you are 60 years old, and you have a decent amount of money in the bank, well landscaped housing and the newest car, but your chosen one is beautiful, with yellowish teeth and as poor as a church mouse, then, most likely, she does not have any feelings for you, but she is interested only in wealth.
While the girls who dream about gray millionaires should be cautious because modern medicine, if you have sufficient funds, can do miracles, but millionaires- lone wolves are a too great rarity. Even so, … everyone has their own fortune.
By the way psychologists showed that the most perfect year gap between a man and a woman is 10-15 years. Perhaps it is worth to take this into account?
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